Tradwife Fail: Alt-Right Icon Discovers Misogyny For A SECOND Time
Who could have predicted that a deeply anti-feminist ideology would treat women like trash?!
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Far be it from me to laugh at the misfortunes of others…unless those misfortunes are self-inflicted and the others in question are just the worst fucking people imaginable. In this case, it’s Lauren Southern, a darling of the alt-right and all-around piece of shit who drove her life off of a cliff and discovered she could not, in fact, fly.
So, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! You fucking dumbass.
But wait, let’s take a step back. Who is Lauren Southern and how did she nuke her life?
Southern was a one-time rising star of the alt-right. She had quite the online presence and was beloved by legions of sexually frustrated wannabe Nazis who would wank off to her videos. She was young, blonde, pretty, and said all of the heinous things they wanted to hear about the evils of immigrants, feminism, Islam, and more. She was big on “Great Replacement” theory and predicted a race war but, my oh my!, don’t call her “far right” or a “white nationalist.” She found that offensive.
Of course, there was that time when she was part of a group of militant European white nationalists who blocked rescue ships searching for distressed migrants in the Mediterranean Sea. Lauren was more than happy to let people, including children, drown. Also, she was quite cozy with Russia. But, no worries, she’s just a normal person. Not at all a fascist or white nationalist.
So…she’s just fucking awful in every way possible. Her life’s work has been selling hate to the far right and yet, in the distant past of 2017, she discovered that the alt-right is rife with…misogyny! And that she was not immune!
Another self-described "conservative woman" also had a problem with her movement's underlying culture. In a video titled, "Why I'm Not Married," Lauren Southern responded to the backlash she received for pushing "traditional family values" and trying to tear down feminism — while not turning into a baby-making machine, herself.
"I am not trying to sell the idea that myself, as a 22-year-old, needs to be married right now for the sake of traditionalism and not being a degenerate," Southern said in a YouTube video. "What is also just completely shocking to me is the utter lack of understanding of nuance."
I wrote about this for The Daily Banter at the time but the site is currently down so no link.1 I found this to be absolutely the funniest thing ever. Until yesterday when I learned that Lauren Southern discovered yet again that she still is not immune to the misogyny of the far right.
You see, Lauren decided to give it all up, after all. The fame, the money, her career as a far-right piece of shit. She got married, moved to Australia, and became a tradwife in 2019. To her shock and horror, it went really badly (as it so often does) because the tradwife lifestyle? It’s nothing but white supremacist bullshit designed to reduce women to domestic slaves. Oh, I fucking said it: Tradwife is trash.
Look, I don’t have a problem with traditional gender roles. If a woman wants to be a stay-at-home mom because that’s appealing and it’s an option, fucking do it. Clearly, I’m not going to object, I’m doing it.
Yeah, yeah, I’m a guy but so what? I’m a stay-at-home parent and I am 100% financially dependent on my significant other. I do most of the cooking, cleaning, etc. etc. Debbie has not scrubbed a toilet bowl in almost 20 years. Mopped? She can count the times on one hand. Dusted and vacuumed? Two hands. That’s what I do when I’m not writing.
It’s far more fulfilling than any job I’ve ever had outside of the home. You cannot put a price tag on the peace of mind both Debbie2 and Claudia3 have knowing that I am home if the kids have an emergency at school or if they need to stay home because they’re sick.
I’ve seen women rail against other women who choose to go that route and, frankly, I found it offensive. Not everyone wants a career. Not everyone wants total independence. I think everyone should have the option but some people, including men, by the way, are just going to be happier in the home cleaning up, raising children, and cooking dinner for their families. I’m good at my job. I love doing it.
Fuck you if you think there’s shame in that.
But being a stay-at-home mom is not the same as being a tradwife. The tradwife lifestyle is a funhouse mirror of the real world. You don’t raise your family, you erase your identity. You don’t support your husband, you submit to his every whim. Marriage is not a partnership, it’s domestic slavery.
I’ll let Southern explain it herself. This is from an article on UnHerd by Mary Harrington:
Then, thousands of miles from friends and family, she reports becoming “the closest thing to a modern day, Western slave”. With no income of her own, she had to do everything: “The lawns, the house, the cooking, the baby care, his university homework. And I didn’t know anyone. I didn’t have any support. There was no help changing diapers, there was no help waking up in the night with the baby. I’d still have to get up, to make breakfast before work. I’d be shaking and nervous, for fear I’m gonna get yelled at.” Then he’d berate her for spending all her time on tasks other than earning money: “I was told daily that I was worthless, pathetic. Deadweight. All you do is sit around and take care of the baby and do chores.” When Covid shut down all real-world public life, her situation became “hell on earth”. It was, she said, “the only time in my life where I idealised dying.”
One can only marvel that she did not see this coming a mile away. But then, why would she? Like so many on the right, Southern lived in a bubble, breathing the fumes of her own toxic bullshit she was shoveling all day. Just like the Republicans who thought overturning Roe would be a good political strategy, Southern got high on her own supply and discovered that the reality is very different from the fantasy.
It’s not really hard to understand why (emphasis mine):
Ellen (not her real name), 35, is another previously married erstwhile “trad” who is now in Southern’s network. She describes how the men who self-select into these communities are often “wayward, antisocial, disagreeable and very, very misogynistic”, frequently themselves from broken homes and with limited real-world social support. And when their relationships go wrong, as they often do, the very online “trad” gender ideology has no remedy. “If there’s a problem due to the fact that he’s crazy, violent, or hateful,” Ellen says, “that’s just how it’s supposed to be. So there’s nothing really done to fix it.”
No fucking shit?! Really?! Who could have ever guessed that an entire ideology explicitly centered on the singular concept, “Women are inferior and exist to cater to the whims of men,” would attract men who want to treat women like slaves? I mean, honestly, it staggers the fucking mind!
After her husband cut ties with her and their child, Southern is back in Canada. With the help of her family and government assistance,4 she is quickly re-establishing herself in the online world of the far right. Has she learned anything? Not really. She’s still a racist. She’s still a bigot. She’s still anti-feminist. And she’s still amazed at the misogyny of the far right who view her as a disgusting failure. There are few things the manosphere hates more than a single mother.
I look forward to writing a third piece in what apparently is going to be an ongoing series: Lauren Southern Rediscovers Right-Wing Misogyny For The THIRD Time And Still Can’t Believe She’s Not Immune! Exactly how many times can the leopards eat your face before you stop voting for the Leopards Eating People’s Faces Party?
I love it when years of my work just go poof into thin air. LOVE. IT.
Wife.
Best friend/neighbor whose daughter Lila has adopted me as her surrogate father these past 7 years. The feeling is mutual.
Good for she, not for thee.
I think it’s important to point out—repeatedly—that she is (or was) on government assistance, especially if she ever opens her mouth to bitch about people receiving government assistance.
I’m very impressed with your ability to keep house, take care of the children, stay rational, and write such cogent reflections on current events. Thank you.