You also gave her a valuable lesson on listening to yourself. Sometimes we need to push through discomfort, for school, work, etc. But a totally voluntary activity? It's optional. I had that experience on the suspension bridge on Tom Sawyer's island at Disneyland. That's when I learned that no matter how effortlessly someone else can do it, it is not for me!
Masculinity and femininity are social constructs made up to keep us divided. Time to throw them in the dustbin. If we want to finally defeat the ruling class, who are killing us, we need to unite to defend ourselves against them. It's the only way us little person and the rest of life on Earth can win.
On the Substack website, I can edit my comments by clicking the three little dots that show below and to the right of my comment. The menu that appears has an Edit command.
On the Substack app on my phone, I can't edit my comments. (Which is stupid that their app works less well than their site.)
I find the Substack app and website difficult to use. I say this as someone who has used computers and Apple devices for a long time for work and pleasure. In fact, I’m the one my friends come to to solve THEIR tech woes and they keep coming back because I am successful at making it work!
If there are any tips or FAQs on using Substack, I could sure use them.
On the Substack site: When I click the three dots next to someone else's comment I get only "Report!", and when I click the three next dots next to my own comments I get "Edit" and "Delete".
On the app: For other's comments I still get "Report" but also "Share" and "Hide, and Report. For mine I still get "Delete" and also get "Share" and "Hide", but "Edit" is gone.
Like I said, weird that the behaviour and options differ so much between their site and their app.
I think you set a great example of strength. It can be hard to say, "I'm not comfortable with this" and leave the situation when everyone around you is staying either because they're enjoying it or they want people to think they're cool. The best way to be truly cool is not to give a fuck what other people think and doing what you need to do for you.
Dear Ogre, there is a vast difference between toxic masculinity and being competitive. I am female and my brother and male cousins find me too competitive. As noted, I don't have those male accessories but I love sport and sportsmanship. Toxic masculinity does not like sportsmanship. It NEEDS to win, no matter what. I don't need to win. Nor do you. You've already won. Because you do not suffer from toxic masculinity and, as important as that is for you, it is so important to your children. Children, both boys and girls need active fathering. I admire you as well as my next door neighbor who is also a stay at home Dad. That takes guts. Even more, you are such a gift to your kids. My hat's off to you, even though you don't need outside affirmation...and that's even better.
I began my transition in 2001 at the age of 48 and 23 years later I still sometimes catch myself succumbing to the pull of the "manly man" attitude of my former self. I worked in construction most of my adult life which is a very masculine profession and it takes all long time to overcome the mind warping of masculinity. Luckily my partner is usually quick to catch this and point it out to me. She's pretty good at bringing me back to reality.
You are a great Dad. My Dad became a invalid in the 1950s and was home raising me while my Mother worked. He did a great job with that but personally it destroyed his self worth. The 1950s was particularly bad for a man to be in that position. For that matter it was particularly bad for my Mother too who was paid less than the young men she trained. They were paid more because they needed to support a family she was told although they were single and she was actually supporting a family.
I got knocked cold as a tiny grade schooler (by weird teacher who was swinging little kids in his lap, who took an extra big arc when a little girl was on his lap, smacking me in the face as I was standing next in line). That left me with a bad sense of balance for my entire life. Am totally in sympathy with you about not wanting to be high up where things are more precarious.
That's remarkable. A strong person knows the limits and doesn't care about other's opinions. A lot of times some will treat us the way we treat ourselves. Too late for me.
As someone that's grown up expressing my emotions more as I've grown up, I personally wanna applaud you and thank you for growing and maturing into the you that you've become, mr. rosario. Toxic Masculinity and Toxicity in general is and will always be absolutely disgusting.
You also gave her a valuable lesson on listening to yourself. Sometimes we need to push through discomfort, for school, work, etc. But a totally voluntary activity? It's optional. I had that experience on the suspension bridge on Tom Sawyer's island at Disneyland. That's when I learned that no matter how effortlessly someone else can do it, it is not for me!
Masculinity and femininity are social constructs made up to keep us divided. Time to throw them in the dustbin. If we want to finally defeat the ruling class, who are killing us, we need to unite to defend ourselves against them. It's the only way us little person and the rest of life on Earth can win.
*People.
I’ve never been able to figure out how to edit a comment after it’s posted. Here’s a work around.
Step one: Copy the comment you’ve just posted.
Step two: delete your comment
Step three: paste the copied comment into a new comment
Step four: edit your comment
Step five: submit your correct comment.
On the Substack website, I can edit my comments by clicking the three little dots that show below and to the right of my comment. The menu that appears has an Edit command.
On the Substack app on my phone, I can't edit my comments. (Which is stupid that their app works less well than their site.)
I’ll try that. Thanks.
I find the Substack app and website difficult to use. I say this as someone who has used computers and Apple devices for a long time for work and pleasure. In fact, I’m the one my friends come to to solve THEIR tech woes and they keep coming back because I am successful at making it work!
If there are any tips or FAQs on using Substack, I could sure use them.
Thanks, again.
I’ve tried using the website and tapping the 3 dots beside my comment. The edit option doesn’t appear.
Odd.
On the Substack site: When I click the three dots next to someone else's comment I get only "Report!", and when I click the three next dots next to my own comments I get "Edit" and "Delete".
On the app: For other's comments I still get "Report" but also "Share" and "Hide, and Report. For mine I still get "Delete" and also get "Share" and "Hide", but "Edit" is gone.
Like I said, weird that the behaviour and options differ so much between their site and their app.
You sound like a wonderful dad. ❤️
I think you set a great example of strength. It can be hard to say, "I'm not comfortable with this" and leave the situation when everyone around you is staying either because they're enjoying it or they want people to think they're cool. The best way to be truly cool is not to give a fuck what other people think and doing what you need to do for you.
Dear Ogre, there is a vast difference between toxic masculinity and being competitive. I am female and my brother and male cousins find me too competitive. As noted, I don't have those male accessories but I love sport and sportsmanship. Toxic masculinity does not like sportsmanship. It NEEDS to win, no matter what. I don't need to win. Nor do you. You've already won. Because you do not suffer from toxic masculinity and, as important as that is for you, it is so important to your children. Children, both boys and girls need active fathering. I admire you as well as my next door neighbor who is also a stay at home Dad. That takes guts. Even more, you are such a gift to your kids. My hat's off to you, even though you don't need outside affirmation...and that's even better.
“Always there when she needs me. There is literally nothing more masculine than that.” 🥰👏
I began my transition in 2001 at the age of 48 and 23 years later I still sometimes catch myself succumbing to the pull of the "manly man" attitude of my former self. I worked in construction most of my adult life which is a very masculine profession and it takes all long time to overcome the mind warping of masculinity. Luckily my partner is usually quick to catch this and point it out to me. She's pretty good at bringing me back to reality.
You are a great Dad. My Dad became a invalid in the 1950s and was home raising me while my Mother worked. He did a great job with that but personally it destroyed his self worth. The 1950s was particularly bad for a man to be in that position. For that matter it was particularly bad for my Mother too who was paid less than the young men she trained. They were paid more because they needed to support a family she was told although they were single and she was actually supporting a family.
Great story, impressive perspective. Thanks.
I got knocked cold as a tiny grade schooler (by weird teacher who was swinging little kids in his lap, who took an extra big arc when a little girl was on his lap, smacking me in the face as I was standing next in line). That left me with a bad sense of balance for my entire life. Am totally in sympathy with you about not wanting to be high up where things are more precarious.
And had she been raised differently the "shrug and ok" could very well have been different. Ya' did great, Dad.
Bravo! That’s what it’s about…for all of us. Recognizing what we no longer need to carry, and then moving to intention…the intention to let it go. 💖😋
Thanks for sharing, Justin, splendid being that you are! 😘💕
Deb, the Groovy Blue Hipster
That's remarkable. A strong person knows the limits and doesn't care about other's opinions. A lot of times some will treat us the way we treat ourselves. Too late for me.
Why too late?
As someone that's grown up expressing my emotions more as I've grown up, I personally wanna applaud you and thank you for growing and maturing into the you that you've become, mr. rosario. Toxic Masculinity and Toxicity in general is and will always be absolutely disgusting.
"Benefits both of age and being an autism parent. You develop a total indifference to how the world looks at you."
We're... bulletproof.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p3i3fQHASX8
Ya got a single, clone brother hanging around in the background? You keep doing YOU! Fun Fun Fun!
Heavens no. One of me is enough. ;)
Doggone it!
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